Food for thought of the day. Are we holding onto something of the past and current too tightly, that it prevents us from receiving the future? Thinking back in my life, I can recall times when however badly I didn’t like the situation I was in, for me to take a step into unfamiliar scared me and I stayed back. I was attached to the familiar than to reach out for the best for me in the unfamiliar. I think choices like this happens to us all the time.
Are you feeling like you are stuck in a rut, you know you need change, but you are too scared of the unknown. The comfort of the known is paralyzing you from letting yourself take the step. Even though that step is what you need and will allow you to meet your needs.
1. Lack of clarity scares us. But can you bring clarity into the situation? Yes! – take accounts of the options, worst case and the best case. Once you have clarity, it may turn out that it’s not as bad as you think.
2. Take courage and take baby steps. One step at a time is better than doing nothing. With each step, things will get easier and easier.
3. Have faith and trust. Don’t trade your promise land of ‘more than enough’ with land of barely enough or land of just enough.
What are you holding onto so tightly, not because it is best, but out of fear of the unknown?
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April 29, 2009 • 11:41 am
As I was flying back from my vacation this weekend, I had a series of revelation. It all started from the thought ‘If we really knew and get rid of all of the ways that are hindering us from experiencing life to the fullest, what will we do? and how will we live? What will it look like?’
- Do we really know the difference between our true heart’s desire from our mind’s desire?
- What if our thoughts (knowingly or unknowingly) are what hinders things from happening in our lives?
- What if we have been searching for the wrong purpose in life all along?
1. How many of us lead a life chasing after desires thinking those are really what they desired, but only to realize after realizing them, that what they desired wasn’t really what they really desired? I’ve been there and done that. What I’ve been learning in the last while is the topic of figuring out (who I really am) and (who I am not, but think I should be). We live too often by the expectations of others. Live a life trying to prove to someone else that we have what it takes, we are worthy, we are loveable etc. The society encourages it and everything we read and listen, points us further away from the truth and the source of where it all starts. Who are you really? Regardless of how perfect your parents were, someone and somewhere along the way have said something or done something that caused wounds in you. It may be as simple as ‘get an A+ on the test, or we are not going to talk to you’. If your parents didn’t say much stuff to you, well, that in itself probably created wounds in you. Because of these wounds, they shape us up to be who we are today, driven and motivated by some magical force that we think we are who we really are. In reality, that may not be the case if you start stripping away the layers and get to the core of your heart.
2. Our thoughts and speech are very powerful. You can have what you say, so don’t say what you already have, but say what you want. I’ve noticed often people say ‘Oh I hope this will happen’ or ‘I am going to try’. Hoping and trying at best will get you hope. What’s preventing us from saying ‘It’ll happen’ or ‘I am committed to make it work’ or ‘I am going to do it’. Is it the fear of what if? or self-doubt that you don’t have what it takes?
3. If we were to strip away all of the wounds and hurts and unforgiveness from the past. What we will have left is the real self. Will that real self feel the same purpose for life as how you’d feel right now? Perhaps the life purpose that we think or looking for, actually comes in a different packaging? People often say they don’t know what their life purpose is, so they’ll try to find substitutes that feels like a worthwhile life purpose. But deep inside, they have doubts which prevents them from going at it full speed. Or that they do go ahead with full speed but feeling the unfulfillment with each step they take. If you can ask the real self today, what will it say it desires to do? Is it to do what it enjoys? Is it about sharing experiences with other people to help them along with their journey?
Let’s take the first step to figure out what’s hindering us from moving forward. If not now, when?
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April 22, 2009 • 11:27 pm
Do we read what we believe? or Do we believe what we read?
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